divya says:
Hi anjali aunty, I am going to do a thing which I thought I would never do. I need your advice on this.
I never had a boyfriend my first sex was with my hubby. It’s been three years since our marriage & I started loosing intrest in sex with my hubby just after four months after my marriage. when ever my husband wants I push my self to satisfy him, but I don’t get satisfied. I love my husband & I will always keep loving him. But for the sake of sexual pleasure I have started to look towards some one else.
This man works in my office, although much elder to me he is not married. He has been looking at me for some time now & offlate I also have developed intrest in him. We have started talking & that’s how I know that he is not married & he knoes about my married life.
When I started talking to him, some of my close female coworkers told me not to get close to him as he goes to hookers & things like that & this is where I really got turned on & intrested in him. I thought to my self that what ever he does is his problem, but if he is going to hookers then he must be really knowing how to satisfy a girl & I feel that I will get what I want with him.
Well I ignored my friends advice & kept talking to him & now we are like really close & we both have expressed our feelings to eachother & it’s not the question of if it happens but when it happens & when ever it happens I want to go for it.
As i am doing it for the first time, there is always the element of guilt of having sex with some other man, but I guess If I have to expierence the true pleasure of sex I have to overcome my guilt & I am mentally prepared to do it.
I need your advice, please advice me on how to go about the whole thing & when I finally sleep with him I don’t think it will be a one night stand, because both of us would want to do it again & again for some time. So is there anything I should keep in mind before going ahead with this.
Please reply
Aunty Anjali says:
Hello Divya.
I think that you are really setting yourself up for a big disappointment here. You think that just because he is having sex left and right that he knows what he is doing. If he is having sex with hookers don’t you think that would mean he has trouble finding sex elsewhere and has to pay women to satify him. If he was a real good lover women would flock to him instead of him paying the girls. Just something to think about.
I would not recommened you go down this path for many reasons. First off you have only had sex with one man and he is your husband. Your bad sex life with him is as much your fault as it is his. Have you told your husband that you are not happy in bed or do you simply pretend everything is ok? I think you should tell your new husband how you feel about your love life and work with him to improve it. There are many things you can do to spice up your relationship together.
Don’t run to another man just because you are too shy to talk to your husband and share your feelings.
Good luck!
