Manjri Didi says:
Hi Anjali,
I appreciate your efforts in sharing your experience and providing such a great advice / services on a subject in which no individual has full knowledge.
I am writing to you for an advice, as my problem is unique. I am saying so as I have tried raked through your archives to find out if you have replied to any such problem earlier, but I did not succeed. In view of the above I am approaching you for advice; please arrange to post your reply on priority. I know that you must be getting hundreds of mails but I think that you will like to reply to this mail and help many others facing the similar situation.
My problem is:
I am 25 years of age married 4 years ago and have a 6 months old baby. For the last three months my husband has been deputed to a foreign country on official work and tenure is three years. He will be visiting us for a period of thirty days after every 11 months of stay abroad. During these last three months I find myself starved of sex life. I have tried to satisfy myself by all known artificial methods including didlos but of no avail. I am quite a horny woman and desire to have something alive inside me which give me the pulsating feeling and fill my inside up with hot fluids, but this desire is not fulfilled by artificial means.
Since my Mother-in-Law died a year ago, my 50 year old Father-in-Law has been living alone with us; therefore, I do not want to go out on date with any outsider to fulfill my desires, and leave him unattended. I love my husband and the family and I do not want to lose them at any cost, so I am not inclined to take any action which may bring bad name to the family. My feeling is that having relation with someone outside the family is like extending invitation for black mail and someday I may fall into the trap of the outsider and reach the point of no return.
My FIL is very energetic and looks much younger than his age. When standing along with my husband he is mistaken as his elder brother and no one can imagine him to be the father. I know that till my MIL’s death he was very active in sex as I could hear their sounds almost every night. Recently I also saw him jerking off in his bath while the door was open and I withdrew from his room. I wish get my desired satisfaction through him. This way I will be with no outsider and our secrets will remain confidential.
I request you to advise me what I should do. Should I suffer or should I approach my FIL. If you have other alternative, kindly reply on top priority.
Thanking you in anticipation,
Regards,
Manjri
Aunty Anjali says:
Hi Manjri,
I am happy you contacted me before acting on your thoughts. If you think sex with an outsider is a bad idea than I can tell you sex with your father in law is an even worse idea. First off he is the father to your husband. Think about that for a minute. This is a terrible terrible idea. I would urge you not to do this. Having sex with people in your family is cause for jealousy, blackmail and all sorts of problems. It is a quick and fast way t destroy your marriage.
The way to do this if you want real live sex is to travel abroad to your husband. If he comes to you every 11 months perhaps you can travel to him every so often. Is that possible? Is it possible for you to live where he is stationed?
I know there are many husbands working abroad and the wives are left at home for many many months. I do not understand why the wives try to seek sex from other men instead of travelling to see their husbands for a wild weekend or even stay with them abroad. This is surely a better idea than cheating on them and especially a better idea than cheating with their father!
I would suggest you talk to your husband and tell him about your needs and what his thoughts are. He is probably thinking the same thing and would love to arrange frequent visits with you for some hot and steamy sex!
Good Luck,
Cheers,
